Ruby Answers Your Q's: Getting Started & Staying Strong
Sun., Mar. 6, 2011 6:00 PM PST by Ruby Gettinger
Each week, Ruby visits with her friends and fans and shares her thoughts on everything from faith to fitness. Click here to send Ruby a question, and keep reading for this week's answers.
I am amazed at your success. When you first started, did you have any joint pain? How did you exercise? —Debbie W.
Yes! I had severe knee and back pain in the beginning, because my knees and back carried most of my weight. I started a lot of my exercising in a chair. I had to strengthen the muscles I hadn't been using.
Always make sure you check with a doctor before you start any exercise program. If your knees are weak or painful, you can work your arms or other body parts. Listen to your body. Find a chair or bed and exercise what you can until you become stronger. I started out doing five minutes three times per day! Break it down, and I promise it makes a difference. Walk down your hall a few times and then rest. Sit and get 2-, 6- or 10-pound dumbbells and work out your arms. (Or use soup cans!) Moving and doing things we've never done before affects the body, heart, energy and weight loss. Mentally, physically, emotionally, spiritually—you will become stronger and feel great about yourself. I started at five minutes on a treadmill; now I can do two miles without stopping. Yay!
We can do it, ya'll. Start right now and change the direction of your life! You are worth it!
I'm looking forward to your new season. Every day I start off determined, and every night I realize I did not deal honestly with my food addiction. How do you avoid using food as your default comfort? I know better but I do not do better. —Jill
Hi, Jill! Thank you so much for supporting me. Sweetie, on this part of my journey, you're about to find out...
...how I still wasn't dealing with my food addiction. I started using healthy food to soothe my pain. You will find out how we have to get to our truth and you'll realize that only by reaching out do we save ourselves.
I totally believe in God. I pray to God about everything but had a problem with this one thing. I talk to my family and friends about things that bother me—work, life, love, etc.—but with this one thing I could not. Isn't that weird? I know now that it's part of the addiction. Part of the reason I started failing again was because I was not reaching out.
I don't know why we feel like this is our fault. It's almost like we're saying God cannot handle this. It's like a punishment to ourselves. This addiction makes us feel weak and defeated as human beings. And who wants to look like that to anyone? It is hard enough seeing ourselves like this! It took my best friends Jeff and Georgia being brutally honest with me and the desperation in their faces for me to finally wake up all the way.
We have groups out there for free that will help us: OA, AA, NA, the list goes on. There are 800 help numbers we can call. We have the Internet. Please reach out today if you need help—it's there for us 24/7.
Jill, please do this today. It will save your life.
Before the show, what did you do for a living? What do you do now? —kaylamom
I started working at 16. The first job I had was at Catherine's Stout Shop, and I worked at Circle K and BP Oil while going to college. I did freelance photography. I was certified as a JOBST fitter and worked doing that at Don Auld's pharmacy for seven years. (I was also a pharmacist technician.) I worked at the front desk of a gym, and I also worked at the best framing place in Savannah, Savannah Framing Company by Greg McGinty. Now I do my photography still and dedicate my time to learning about food addiction and sharing my journey with others through my show, speaking and here on mystyle.com.
You mention starting at 716 pounds, but when the show began you were much smaller than that. How did you lose your first 100+ pounds? —RubyGeeFan
When we started shooting the show, my weight was 550. I ate only proteins and vegetables and would not eat carbs after 5 p.m., and those first pounds just fell off. That kind of loss doesn't go on forever, though, so I really had to learn about how to lose the rest of the weight in a healthy way and get past the emotional reasons for my eating.
> Got a question? Ask Ruby now! She'll be back next week with more answers.
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Now loading...allaina Sun, Mar 6, 2011, 9:01 PM
1. Ruby, I don't really have a question, but a couple of comments. I am sitting here now watching the premiere of your new season, and I am all at once inspired, and jealouse! First, the inspired part. You are confident, and have found the will power to lose the weight you need to get healthy. I always say I want to lose a few extra pounds, but the will power just doesn't seem to come to me. I know if someone else can do it, then it is possible. Kind of like walking on the moon. Lastly, I am so jealouse of your moves! I have tried to the sexy dance myself, but I am so self-concious, I fail miserable. Your confidence is all encompassing, and awesome to watch. I could never move like that, and never on television! Oh, and one more thing. While I was pulling up the page, my 7 year old daughter came up and said "Is that Ruby? She is so pretty!" You are a powerful, amazing woman. Don't let anyone get you down, or tell you otherwise!
Rascal Sun, Mar 6, 2011, 9:27 PM
2. Monday March 7, 2011 Dear Ruby, Hi! How are you? Well.....I was really looking forward to your first show again this year and tonight there it was! I was so happy to see you again and also happy, to be honest with you that you finally reconciled with the fact that Denny was not really the man that you thought he might have been(or did you?) You also said something very interesting last night Ruby. You said, "I'm never going to be PERFECT to any guy!" Well, Ruby, I hate to tell you this but NONE of us are "perfect!" Nevermind yourself...........NONE of us are.....even "Denny!" So....if you begin with that thought in mind, that ALL of us are "HUMAN" and we ALL make mistakes in life then you possibly may even begin to actually love "yourself!" There is where you really need to start, Ruby.....is by loving yourself and then, from there, when you are finally able to do that, then more than likely(as with myself, also), someone else will truly and finally love you too......for YOU! Rascal
kat hamlin Sun, Mar 6, 2011, 9:29 PM
3. hi ruby i enjoy your show very much. i can identify so much! you inspire me to start exercise again. i have tried several diets and should have the knowledge to eat healthy. i am cheering for you to be able to reach your goal. please ignore your yucky old boyfriend. he is a fair weather friend and drags you down. you have good friends and i think if you start caring for yourself you will meet someone new! kat
Susan Gregory Sun, Mar 6, 2011, 11:14 PM
4. Ruby u are such a inspiration to many of us. You are amazingly beautiful both inside and out and I could only hope to be just like u. I was at 560 I am now 420 and this is so hard to do but I just look at u and know that I can do it. Please dont ever change and never settle for any less than u deserve... Wishing u much love and look forward to sharing ur journey with u......... Have a blessed day :o)))
Cynzia Mon, Mar 7, 2011, 8:56 AM
5. Hello Ruby! I am a big fan of your show * was glad to see you back last night in the new season! I too have had a weight struggle since I was about 9 years old. Your friends, your therapists * especially you are helping me to find out who I really am after 57 years! I trust God to help me with everything else but being morbidly obese most of my life has left me feeling defeated * feeling unworthy of God's love sometimes. Like you though, I know that my help comes from the Lord * I am going to start reaching out to others about my food addiction. Ruby, I know that you love Denny or you wouldn't be so jealous when he is eyeballing other women. Denny shouldn't put a condition or requirement on his love for you. In due time, God will send someone special into your life * that love will be unconditional! You are a beautiful, special woman! Thank you for the hope * encouragement you bring to all of us each week. Love, Your friend, Cynzia
linda Mon, Mar 7, 2011, 10:36 AM
6. Ruby, I first was introduced to your show on Netflix because I do not have cable. I watched the first 2 seasons on Netflix in like a week's time, I am addicted! Then I found Season 3 on Itunes * my husband bought it for me for Valentine's Day. You make me smile, laugh and cry all in one show. I may not have a lot of weight to lose but food addicts come in all shapes and sizes! I was so delighted when I discovered that you, Jeff and Georgia are believers and that you take your faith seriously and you do not shrink back from showing it to the world. You inspire me! Looking forward to somehow following your journey even if I have to do so after the fact! Grace and peace!
Edna Mon, Mar 7, 2011, 11:08 AM
7. Ruby, you are a beautiful person * inside and out and you deserve so much more than that jerk Denny, there is someone out there that will love you for who you are.
Zany Mon, Mar 7, 2011, 11:16 AM
8. The new show was a tough one for me. I see where your life is headed by the letters they showed at the end of the show. I have to say it kind of scares me. You are about to face something I have to face also in the days ahead. Wow...this hit me hard. I was not a believer that my weight had much to do with what has happened to me in my life..until last night. I have never told anyone EVER about some of my childhood. How do you face that?...I am not sure I can ever tell my mom (I am 43)...I am so afraid of the hurt it will cause...did you tell your family and friends? I honestly cannot believe I am writing this "out loud" to you. The person that abused me recently told me they wanted nothing to do with me ever again. I think it is because they KNOW what they did...have seen me becoming stronger and are afraid I am going to talk. My parents don't understand why "all of the sudden" this person has pushed me out of his life. I have no idea how to tell them. Any ideas?
Janet Mon, Mar 7, 2011, 11:23 AM
9. Ruby, I've written you before and never received an answer from you. I do want you to know that because I've had a weight problem all my life (as long as I can remember) I can relate to you and your struggle. I have now been going to OA for about 6 weeks and am beginning to understand a few of the reasons I became addicted to food. I've got a long way to go, but feel I'm beginning to have a small support group. I'm trying to turn it all over to God and let HIM work on me. I'm almost 57 years old, but maybe there's a chance for me to lose some of this weight. I don't have the resources that you have, but I do have the determination (at least most days) and I'm taking it one day at a time now. Your show and your messages on Facebook help me a lot. I found myself feeling a lot of emotion on your show last night. I'm wondering why. I think deep down, I'm not as happy as I pretend to be, but not sure why. I'm feeling overwhelmed, angry, just a full range of emotion. Good luck to you.
Stacy Mixon Mon, Mar 7, 2011, 11:28 AM
10. Ruby...I just wanted to say how much I enjoyed your shows last night....they were awesome! I am so proud of you for everything you are overcoming in your life...You are such an inspiration to all the women to the world!! I am also very happy that you and Denny made a break thru. I could see how toxic and just plain rude he was to you...it made me really sad ** I can not wait to see the up coming season! You are an amazing person... God Bless! Stacy **
Linda Mon, Mar 7, 2011, 11:42 AM
11. Hi Ruby, As I watched the show I wanted to tell you to stop fighting * just be. You are putting so much energy into fighting what the therapist tries to tell you. You attack * defend. Just accept what is being said * allow it to sink in for a day, week or month. Learn the feminine art of just being. All men are attracted to what is physical appealing to them. That is how God created them. That does not make them bad. Think about the man you want, then what would he want in a lady * use that to motivate you to become that lady. I would suspect Denny has intimacy issues that he need to resolve. If you weighted 120 today he could not handle it. In closing think forward. God love you, I see you struggling * allowing all the past to pull you back. Put all you energy into setting very small tasks you can successfully complete. Then hold onto them. It will be hard because resistance will surface. The process of holding on will answer the questions of your past. I'll FaB U
Angie Gonzalez Mon, Mar 7, 2011, 12:03 PM
12. I just watched your show for the first time last night and was glad I did. I usually shy away from "weight loss" shows, because they depress me. I'd never make it on The Biggest Loser, cause I'd cry every time those trainers called me fat or lazy. I know I'm fat, and like you, I have a food addiction. I have been in and out of OA over the years and it works for me when I'm doing it, but I haven't been consistent. This past year I had a health scare which gave me more drive than I've ever had to get healthy. I started out at 425 lbs, and got down to 360, and then just started getting back into old patterns, and gained back 15 lbs. Your show last night encouraged me to "get back into it" and start caring about my health again. It's a daily struggle, and I know how you feel....don't give up.....hang in there and know that you are an encouragement to others....me, at least! God bless. Angie
Lynn Mon, Mar 7, 2011, 12:09 PM
13. Hello Ruby * thank you for sharing your journey with us. If anyone has ever had a weight problem, and I am not talking about trying to lose 10 lbs. then you can understand the struggle that it is. I have lost and gained a village in my lifetime and 22 months ago resorted to getting LapBand. No heavy person wants to be heavy, and unlike some of the other addictions, you have to eat to live.....I mean three times a day, you are faced with having to eat. Ruby, you have wonderful friends in Jeff and Georgia. And I hate to agree with some others that I don't think that Denny is your love or soul mate. There are men out there that will love you for you....your beautiful smile, spirit, laughter, playfulness, and heart! You are beautiful on the inside and out! You just need to find the right relationship and I believe that our Heavenly Father will bring him to you.....your journey is not over.....if God will bring you to it, he will bring you through it! Keep on keeping on.....love ya Ruby!
janie Mon, Mar 7, 2011, 12:22 PM
14. dearest Ruby....You inspire me sooo much..I weigh 286.and at one time 340 I had lost 125 pounds on weight watchers...not to my goal yet,but I felt like "Twiggy"..Then one day I lost my motivation(after a traumatic event happened in my family) and started to eat for comfort again...so here I am again..starting at square one...to meet you would be a dream come true..for you to help me figure this out..I have it in me to lose this weight I just need some major inspiration..I'm 55 and need your help...When I saw you on Dr. Oz the other day..I was soo excited....You must know how much you inspire and motivate so many...I know you don't have time for everybody...but...I have lost 3 brothers to heart disease..because of weight related reasons!!!!!!!!!!!! Ruby I don't want to go the way they did...David had just turned 39 ...3 days before he suddenly died....Ruby..YOU Rock. God Bless you!!..Sincerely...so sincerely...Janie
Kim Mon, Mar 7, 2011, 12:27 PM
15. Ruby.. I just love you, your show, your stamina and keeping on, keeping on, but I detest what you take off Denny! He back peddles when it comes to ways he should have treated you, whether in a sexual relationship or not, he was IN a relationship and admits to cheating. Is it ONLY MY GAYDAR that goes off when I see him?? (actually no... all 23 of my friends who watch, think the same thing) Ruby, you never need settle for less in friendship, so do not on LOVE, either! Girl get that self respect in gear, and see him for the narcissist he is, and move on! I am anxious to see if your early childhood trauma prepared you to take abuse like this from him. No one is important enough to make you feel *less than* and it hurts all us who love you, when we see it happening.
Julie Mon, Mar 7, 2011, 12:35 PM
16. Just a comment: You couldn't be any more adorable if you tried! Love you!
Dinah Mon, Mar 7, 2011, 12:39 PM
17. Hi Ruby...I have so many questions...but I find through watching your show you end up answering most of them anyway and I love it! I really just wanted to say...I LOVE YOUR SHOW and I am amazed at your weight loss...BTW...you be looking good honey! So keep up the good work! I look so forward to your show and it sounds like it is going to be the best ever this season. I want to learn how you are coping with your eating addiction.That is my problem too and now that I am almost 60...the weight just keeps going up and I have no energy to excercise anymore. I LOVE to eat! I love junk food! So I am looking forward to your show. I will be sitting there with eyes and ears wide open. You are loved by so many Ruby and I wish that one day I could meet you in person. It would be an honor! And one last thing...I love your name...Ruby was my mothers name and she recently passed away in Feb. * I miss her so much! I was told by our priest that reminders of my mother are little gifts from God. ;-D
Deborah Mon, Mar 7, 2011, 12:40 PM
18. Ruby what about weight loss surgery? I have been in a program for seven months preparing for the procedure. My insurance approved and I am now waiting for a surgery date. So many in my doctors program have had wonderful results. It is very wholistic; nutrition, psychology, exercise, group therapy, a notebook complete with at home work, plus cardiac, sleep, and GI medical evals before surgery. I have lost 25 pounds in the process and can't wait for the procedure. Your thought?
cindi Mon, Mar 7, 2011, 12:46 PM
19. Hi Ruby: I have been watching your show since last season and could not wait until it came back on this season. It was great last night. I am very proud of you. You have so much courage to have the TV cameras documenting all of your journey. It takes a strong person to do that. I was overweight as a child, lost weight and weighed 118 pounds when I was 4 months pregnant with my daughter who will be 30 in August. I am now at my highest weight. I am a stress eater. I do not have a supportive family so I eat to soothe my pain. I have 50 to 60 pounds to lose but I just cannot seem to get motivated most days to go to the gym. It doesn't help that I have been unemployed since May 2010 and cannot seem to get a job. Very stressful. I haven't dated in years because of my weight. I feel nobody would want me at 200 pounds. Sorry for rambling on and on. I admire you so much and I am so glad that you got rid of Denny. He is not right for you.
Breezyanna Mon, Mar 7, 2011, 1:12 PM
20. Dearest Ruby:I just discovered your show last week, the one where you and your friends go to the six-day house. I was so stricken by the heartache your friends suffered and the healing process they are all going thru, but most of all I was inspired by your efforts to discover your forgotten past and to seek healing moving forward from there. I am only 27 y/o, but I have been obese since I was a teen. Only this weekend I discovered that I weigh more than I have ever weighed in my life- nearly 300 lbs. I was so incredibly heartbroken, I went into the kitchen and reached for food. Then I remembered you and the discipline you've had, and I walked away. Of course I have a very long way to go, but watching you persevere helps me realize that I have the strength inside of me to overcome this disease! Thank you for being so strong and brave, and thank you for sharing your story with the world. Stay strong. (read Jeremiah 29:11... it always lifts me up when I've been knocked down.)
Leanne Mon, Mar 7, 2011, 1:22 PM
21. Ruby, I just want to say that just love you. You are a beautiful person inside and out.
Marianne W. Mon, Mar 7, 2011, 2:22 PM
22. Thank you so much for being such a strong woman that you share your life with us. I have struggled with me weight the last 13 years. I found you a year ago as I began my second battle with my weight. You have given me the strength to see my own addiction and the role my relationships have played in it. I am 37 this year and struggle with my childhood memories as well. I have very little true memories from birth to 14. It was always believed by my mother (she passed in 1996) that my father or grandfather sexually abused me. I also want to say this, you are beautiful inside and out. There is a man out there that will not see the outward woman. I met a man 5 years ago, at my heaviest (255 lbs). He is 10 yrs younger than me. He saw me for who I was inside. He has been with me as I gained weight after surgery gone bad and then lost it again. He is the same body type as your ex. He doesn't pressure me when I gain but stands by me as I deal with my issues. You will find love, do not despair.
Dawn P Mon, Mar 7, 2011, 2:25 PM
23. Ruby * It always amazes me how the strongest people are unable to recognize their own strengths * you are inspiring a nation to MOVE, to take action in their lives and really LIVE, be present, be accountable and GET REAL. If even one of the many people that reach out to you every day touches you and gives you a glimpse of your true stength I know you will make it to your goal of finding SELF.
Pam Lewis Mon, Mar 7, 2011, 2:53 PM
24. Was it hard getting started, you have shown me it is possible. When my husband and I got married I was a size 8, now Iam a 22w, he says he loves me no matter ow big I get, and if I wanted to lose wieght to do it for me and not him. I told I want to lose so I could feel good about me, I have stsrted a few times and failed. I was wondering what is the best way to get started?
sandy Ignacio Mon, Mar 7, 2011, 3:07 PM
25. Ruby, give up Denny! I was in love with a guy from High school and it ruined my life. We were just friends but I wanted more. Turns out he also was gay. That hurt even more! Anyway. move on. I did and I found Mr. Right! I had a gastric sleeve surgery 16 months ago. I am down 150 pounds. I am at 238 right now. But I am working on the rest. Look into having the Gastic Sleeve done. It really changes your life. It also reminds you, you can never look at food the same again. I don't regret having it done. I am happier, healthier!
Angela Mon, Mar 7, 2011, 3:50 PM
26. Rudy, I watched your new episode last night, and everything you said I could completely relate to. I don't know if I am addicted to food, but everyone says I must be. I don't know what has happened in my past that has caused me to over eat, but everyone says it must be something. But I truly do not know what it is. I have tried for 15 years to figure it out, and all the while adding on more pounds. It seems the harder i try the more I gain. i love your show. It is real and you pour your heart out for everyone to see. i wish I could be that strong. i walk around with a big smile on my face everyday, but only I know how bad i really hate being fat. I act like it's not a big deal to me because I have always been overweight. But deep down inside i want nothing more than to be skinny, well not skinny, but smaller. I just want you to know that you have really touched my heart and I can't wait to see next weeks episode!
Stephanie Mon, Mar 7, 2011, 3:56 PM
27. I have been following your progress. I am so proud of you! I can't help but see this wonderful person on TV putting out her story for all the world to see. I have been through a lot in my life and I have a food addiction. All the pain and emotions you are going through, I go through too. It's a bit of a comfort to see I am not the only one out there who feels this way. My mother constantly insulted me and called me fat in my formative years. I believe this is a reason why I have such a struggle with my weight. When I was 12 years old and a size 6 an aunt told my I was too overweight to be a part of our family. (granted all of my aunts weigh in the 200s and are under 5'1. When I watch you overcoming your nightmares, it makes me want to get to it and overcome mine. How hard was it for you to overcome the nightmares of your life and begin anew? I am struggling to find the strength.
Nancy Mon, Mar 7, 2011, 3:58 PM
28. Dearest Ruby, My Mom and I watch you faithfully. You are an inspiration to us. I have lost 40 pounds 2 years ago but can't seem to get the scale to budge for the last 2 years although I have not cheated. What keeps a person motivated to loose weight if the scale won't budge. We love you Ruby!!
Jo Mon, Mar 7, 2011, 4:04 PM
29. Hi Ruby, I was just channel surfing last night and came accross the premier. I think just making that stance to work on your life and let Denny live his life is a great move. You can do such much better and you will. You are an inspiration to me! The fact that you can live your life in front of the whole country and figure out what's eating you., I weigh 250 and that is largest I have ever been. I stuff myself to escape what ever is bothering me. By listening to you, I really do believe you need to get to the bottom of things, until you can really normalize your weight. I will be watching you this season and I wish you the best of luck! Jo
DianAMariA Mon, Mar 7, 2011, 4:39 PM
30. Ruby, you are certainly one gutsy lady. You have opened up your struggle to all of America and you do it with humor and true grit. So many of us share your struggle and most of us know it is not about the food but about the addiction. Our chosen "drug" is food, but the substance could have been gambling, drinking, hoarding, etc...the hope is that we will learn to love ourselves enough so that we will not repeat this destructive behavior or self-abuse. We deserve so much better for ourselves. Your story is a true inspiration to me as I am a closet-eater. All of us in this boat lose and gain weight. So for you just remember you are not perfect and you may gain some weight as you struggle to find your way. The main point of it all is NOT TO GIVE UP!!! Never. Today you may stray but tomorrow or the next day you will get focused again. Thank you for being so brave.
Donna Horton Mon, Mar 7, 2011, 5:24 PM
31. Hey Ruby, Just wanted to say, I love, love, love you! You are such an inspiration to all not just the ones of us that need to get rid of some weight. You have such a bright and happy outlook on life. I wish you nothing but positive thoughts, prayers and nothing but the best on your journey and just in life in general. Do you think you will write a book anytime about your life and the major accomplishments you have made? Love you and cannot wait until next week for your show!!!!
Donna Boehm Mon, Mar 7, 2011, 5:29 PM
32. Ruby I love you, like you I have been fighting my weight since my first child was born 38 years ago. I had gastric bypass and lost 180 pounds but have gained about 40 back but I didnt deal with the issues that caused the weight gn in the first place. Gastric bypass was a huge mistake I had no issues physically for 15 years. But after that physically anemia issues almost killed and I would NEVER recommend it to anyone. Ruby You are a wonderful person and someone like Denny is a poison to you. He is a crutch but one that is unstable and harmful. He can be your "boyfriend" but not sexual, he can be your "friend" but he isnt one or he would not hurt you like he has. you need to cut that cord like an anchor that is pulling you under and drowning you. I also have little to no memory of my younger years and I know why it is for protection because I was sexually molested, I have bits and pieces flashes and I believe it is a protection from reliving it. Kind of like a head injury,
Freneshia Mon, Mar 7, 2011, 6:07 PM
33. Dear, Ruby I want you to know you are wonderful, and there is a man out there that will love you as you are. Don't waste know more time on Denny, it is his loss. Freneshia
shelly Mon, Mar 7, 2011, 6:26 PM
34. I seen a lot of me in you.I'm 150 now I was 355 6 years ago I had gastricbypass no matter how we take off the wt its still hard to do and keep off.its crazy how mean people can be to over wt people I see how people r a lot nicer to me now and watching your show made me think I'm still full of hate or hurt from when I was fat.you made me see I got somethings I need to work out also.keep up the good work .God Bless You.
Barbette Mon, Mar 7, 2011, 6:34 PM
35. Ruby you go girl. I just love everything about you! I am from SC so I love your accent. You are a joy to watch and your show is so refreshing. It is real and you are real. Keep up the good work and don't give up on finding that special someone he is out there and you deserve the best so don't settle for anything less. I think that you are beautiful and so sweet. We need more women like you on television because you are real and we can identify with you. Barbette
evie hillman Mon, Mar 7, 2011, 7:30 PM
36. ruby, you are a beautiful woman inside and out! <3 Please tell me what you eat to lose weight. I quit smoking in Dec and have not looked back and need to learn to eat healthy,thank you! i do run 4 miles a day but still need meal ideas please help **
Karen Mon, Mar 7, 2011, 7:38 PM
37. Ruby * I thought the new season would EVER get here. PLEASE kick Denny to the curb. He a sucker * and sucks the life out of you. SO MANY OTHER MEN are wanting to be with you RIGHT NOW * they just don't know how to get in touch with you. How dare he compare his cheating with another woman as the same thing as you "cheating" by eating something. It's just another way men like that twist the facts to justify jumping on another woman. Now, let's see some new people come into your life. Your circle needs to expand * provide an infusion of new ideas, creative activities, and some positive vibes. I'd be happy to come hang with you for a while.
Sherri Mon, Mar 7, 2011, 7:49 PM
38. Hi Ruby, I love you and your show. I just wanted to tell you that for the past 25 years I have watched my husband and my three sons ride go carts and wished I could ride with them. I was always too embarrassed. When I seen you riding at Nascar theme park in Myrtle Beach I told myself if Ruby can do it I can. So Ive made plans to go as soon as the weather warms up a little. I live near Myrtle beach in a town called Pawleys island so the next time you are here to see Denny maybe we can go ride together. My mom sister and I are coming to Savannah in June and would be so HACKY to see you * Tell Georgia and Jeff hello for me.
Alice Mon, Mar 7, 2011, 7:59 PM
39. Wonderful to see you and your friends again ** Thank you for sharing your journey with us ** I loved it when you broke your scale *** You have an awesome support system; Georgia * Jeff and you are a blessing to each other!! **** And to all of us ** How much do you weigh today, March 7, 2011 * Would like to see ya'll cook and share your recipes * with correct portions ** Friends for life!! Ali :0))))
Sandra K Mon, Mar 7, 2011, 8:03 PM
40. OMG!!!! My family and I have been waiting for the show to start and loved loved loved it last night!!! Your willingness to just put EVERYTHING out there for us all to learn and seriously laugh, but also cry with you. Thank you for your bravery and just keep the faith.....YOU CAN MAKE IT THROUGH THIS. We are all rooting you on. My family adores your show, so thank you for sharing.
Katie Mon, Mar 7, 2011, 8:04 PM
41. Ruby you are such an inspiration and all that you speak of is such a positive message coming so deeply from your heart I know I don't know you but I am so proud of you!! Its such an honor that god has blessed us with such a beautiful person. Keep doing your thing you look great ** ~Katie
Sophia Mon, Mar 7, 2011, 8:07 PM
42. A friend told me to watch your show last night and I am so glad I did. I can relate so much to you and your struggle because I keep losing and gaining and losing and gaining my weight. I honestly feel like I am never going to win at this, it is just so hard. Thanks for helping me to make the decision to fight back again. I am definitely a new fan!
Sharon Mon, Mar 7, 2011, 8:45 PM
43. Ruby, I was looking forward to seeing your show this season and your progress. I understand your struggle and I have a few words of encouragement. 1. After you find out about the past, confront it and then let it go. Do not allow it to control/hinder your life and your success any longer. 2. You do not need a man or anyone to make you feel complete. 3. Learn to love yourself. 4. Live one day at a time. 5. Don't worry about being alone, we are never alone when we have God on our side. You will continue to be an inspiration and blessing to others.
Torrie Mon, Mar 7, 2011, 10:44 PM
44. Hi Ruby, I just wanna start off by saying, YOU ROCK! I just startd watching the show last week * I also eat when I am stressd, upset, or just plain ol bored. I have been very self conscious of my weight after my 2nd daughter but after watching your show * seeing how much, you have done, I am on a life style change (diet * startd Curves). I wanna say Thank You So Much for sharing your story * being so inspirational. You seem to be so real * strong. Now to my questions.... #1 How do you feel about all of the attn that this is giving you * basicly being a role model to so many? #2 Ain't it weird to share your life, mostly the past with the world? BTW Thank you for doing it because so many need to be aware that they are not alone. #3 Do you think that ya'll will do anything in the Dallas, Tx area? Maybe come workout w me;) I really hope that you find that Godly man that accepts you ** what you feel are impefections,we ALL have them) ***** it'd be neat to find out, it's Jeff;) *prayers*
karen Hamilton Tue, Mar 8, 2011, 1:55 AM
45. i lost weight along with you when i first discovered your show on lifestyle (last year). i was happy to finally break through the 120 kgs mark something that has not happened in 28 years. But over the past few months, things have happened...I work full time, long hoours= heart attack-hospital and stent in my arteries aaround heart. As a result, gave up smoking, not wanting to start up again...my problem, i have gained ALL the weight i lost and more..... I am currently doing exercises (cardiac program) 2 times a week, and at home(not so much), am cutting down on junk food, nice healthy low fat/ low suger foods, but i am not strict.... Any advice???
Denise Tue, Mar 8, 2011, 3:51 AM
46. Hi Ruby, I love your show. I will be so glad when Denny is no longer apart of your life. He is not good for you. However, you have to get to that point to realize that, only you can do that. I want you to learn to love yourself and know that Denny may look at those other women, but they don't want him. You boost his ego and you should stop. I want you to get to the point that whatever he is doing is his business. If you call him and he does not answer....SO WHAT, don't answer when he calls. He's really NOT your friend, who needs a CONDITIONAL friend, no one. Anywho, good luck on your journey, I wish you the best.
Ellen Tue, Mar 8, 2011, 6:58 AM
47. I had Lap band procedure,could not loose more than 6 lbs, weight in 2008, 338#'s * stuck in the mud just say, Surgeon would not fill band because not enough weight loss, THEN DEPRESSION SET IN!! All that for nothing..NO! I took advise and went to a Chiropractor, Dr Dan Yachter, The Top Chiropractor in Florida, seeing more than 2,000 patients a week. Yes a week, He found that I had 5 vertebra smashed together from a childhood accident and mercury poisoning for 13 leaking old amalgam fillings, with in a months time all fillings replaces and my mental status was as if I was 15 again, the weight is now coming off, I can walk a 5- k with out being out of breath, I clean 6 homes a week and hold a full time job, please take a closer look at Dr Dan knowledge. He has a clinic in Lake Mary, I am writing you to see if your cl ient RUBY has my situation. It would be interesting to see what findings Dr Dan could find in her, Take a chance for a life free of misery and pain, get on the track of med-
Emily barrett Tue, Mar 8, 2011, 8:25 AM
48. Ruby doo I too have struggled with weight and self esteem issues in my life. I want you to know that there are better men out there besides doody head Denny. I think the best thing that you can do is get rid of him and not allow him back in. have you noticed that he only came back when you started the show? What its it about him that keeps drawing you back in? Love you
Carol Tue, Mar 8, 2011, 8:30 AM
49. Ruby I am addicted to food. I had bariatric sugery and lost 80lbs but im gaining again. I was in denial before I didnt think I was addicted to food but now realize I am. Do you have any advice for me how to deal with this? I watch your show and your such an inspiration to me I dont want to give up.
Gayleepoo Tue, Mar 8, 2011, 9:12 AM
50. Hi Ruby, Just wanted to tell you that I am SO glad your show is back one. Loved every minute of the pre show and the episode! "Astronaut hole" is SOOOO funny. I"m using it! I think you are the most courageous person I've ever seen. Thank you for airing your life to help all of us. So many people out there that can identify with you and you're one of only a few talking about this honestly. Our pastor talks about what he calls the "emotional * spiritual principle" where you can't grow more spiritual than where you are emotionally, but as you grow emotionally we then grow spiritually and I think for some food addicts * abuse survivors we also face a physical * emotional principle. We can't heal physically past where we are emotionally BUT as we are willing to heal emotionally and deal with the past, hurt, fear,anger, etc that we're carrying around, THEN we are able to heal physically * get healthly. It's like a dance. That's why this road is a journey. Know what I mean?